So you decided to merge with your families. The process of bringing families together is a complex and emotional one. Much has been written about the dynamics and struggles of integrating families upon remarriage. Therefore, this short article is focused Just The importance of building bonds between spouses throughout the period of family bondage disorder.
1. Set and enforce clear boundaries in your marriage
set boundaries in your marriage; Respect them and be consistent. Boundaries provide protection and guidance regarding how spouses should act, and how you interact with each other, as well as with people outside the marriage. The boundaries a couple may set for their marriage may include things like:
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Keeping sensitive and intimate information about a spouse confidential (for example, we don’t discuss marital complaints with family members or ex-spouses)
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Taking responsibility for their own individual feelings and not demanding that their spouse feel the same way they do about everything
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Behave in a way that respects the spouse, and also shows self-respect (eg, name-calling is not used during an argument).
I cannot stress enough how important this is. Not having boundaries in a marriage can be disastrous. If you are unsure about the state of boundaries in your relationship, contact me; I love working with you.
2. Realize that your relationship with your spouse is different from your relationship with children
While it is important to meet the needs of the children in the family, strengthening the marital bond is essential. A relationship with your children is all about love, nurturing, guiding, disciplining, grooming, and handing them over to the world as valuable contributors someday. The relationship with your wife is for you both. It is love and care, enjoying and appreciating the person they have become, achieving goals together, and sharing dreams. The relationship between spouses is the sharing of personal satisfaction and pleasure between two grown ups. Companionship and support, they are both emotional And Physicality is key to this relationship.
3. Date your husband
The practice of dating falls by the wayside after saying “I do”. When blending a family, dating your spouse becomes even more important. It’s an important part of establishing your identity as a couple, not just parents or parents. It also establishes a culture in your new family, which shows that the marriage relationship is important. Dating your spouse provides an opportunity for your children and grandchildren to witness positive marital behavior. This practice gives you and your spouse an opportunity to strengthen and maintain the connection. You’ll need to support each other while mixing up the family.
4. Be careful when receiving “well-intentioned” advice
Friends and family are full of “well-intentioned” advice and unsolicited advice. This advice can sometimes backfire and turn into interference, which is intrusive and harmful. You may even, inadvertently, cause your relationship to become a topic of gossip within your social circle, putting more stress on your marriage. When seeking advice about your marriage within a blended family, speak with someone who will give you constructive and objective advice, while keeping your personal information private. If there is no one in your life who can provide this for you, please see a licensed counselor. Your relationship is worth it.
5. Check in often with your spouse. Communicates!
Be careful not to allow crimes to remain unaddressed or resolved. Communication can act as a cleanser in a relationship. You can build a resilient marriage through healthy and continuous communication.
When merging a family, difficulties will occur; Anticipate them and plan ahead when you can. Before the wedding, talk about finances, discipline, household duties, living arrangements, etc.
6. Give yourselves credit for the things you do well
Identify your strengths as a couple and pay attention to the things that work well. If you’ve been working hard to make time for each other or to improve how you communicate with your spouse, give yourself credit for these things. But don’t stop there. Continue to learn new skills that will increase the relationship between you and your spouse.
7. Seek professional help if things get too cloudy
Sometimes we get so caught up in our own situation that we can’t see things clearly. Meeting with a licensed counselor can help by providing an unbiased view of your situation. A counselor can help you and your spouse discover tools to strengthen your bond, while integrating your family.